Paying It Forward ~ Time Well Spent

July 4, 2013 at 11:02 am 2 comments

    It often takes a village to raise a child. In order to raise a child to become a self-confident and secure human being, deposit plenty of love, withdraw judgement, and spend as much time as you can with them! Of course we must provide for them, protect them and educate them.  But if we expect our children to become compassionate, contributing citizens, we must teach them to pay it forward. It’s never too late for adults to learn to pay it forward,  but imagine our world if we were to teach our children, early on, about the benefits of giving. Plant the philanthropy seed as early as possible and watch our children grow into the best version of themselves. As they learn to walk, why not take their tiny hands in yours and guide them to climb the moral high ground, beginning a most meaningful journey.

In 2000, Catherine Ryan Hyde’s novel Pay It Forward was published and then adapted into the Warner Brother’s film. It conveys an obligation to do three good deeds for others in response to one good deed that one receives. These good deeds should accomplish things that the other person cannot accomplish on their own. This practice of helping one another can spread throughout society, at a ratio of three to one, creating a social movement that is bound to make the world a better place.

Paying it forward actually dates back further then I realized. I discovered that in 1784, Benjamin Franklin believed strongly in this concept. It allowed him to lend to others less fortunate, but only if the beneficiary would turn around and become the lender to another when the opportunity arose. His hope was that this would catch on and go through many a hand, and good deeds would spread. In his 1941 essay entitled Compensation, Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote: “In the order of nature we cannot render benefits to those from whom we receive them, or only seldom. But the benefit we receive must be rendered again, line for line, deed for deed, cent for cent, to somebody.” In 1916, Lily Hardy Hammond wrote “You don’t pay love back; you pay it forward.”  Coach Woody Hayes, The Ohio State University football coach was best remembered for winning five national titles and thirteen Big Ten championships in 28 years. He coached with the philosophy “You can never pay back; but you can always pay forward.” Winston Churchill believed that ” we make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”

Today, there are organizations whose foundation is built solely upon the Pay It Forward concept. Check out, The Karma Seed Foundation, The Pay it Forward Movement and Foundation, The Newton Project, and The Student Body of America Association’s Project Pay it Forward for inspiring stories and invitations to join the ripple effect of kindness around the world. Dr. Seuss said it best with his straight to the heart quote: “to the world you may be one person; but to one person you may be the world.” I encourage you to Pay it Forward and pass this blog along. It will be time well spent!



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  • 1. Craig  |  July 8, 2013 at 11:05 am

    This blog is a Wonderful reminder to everyone about giving… As my family has long known, I (and we) live by Zig Ziglar’s quote, “You can have everything in life you want if you just help other people get what they want.”

    • 2. jaynebonilla  |  July 8, 2013 at 11:15 am

      Craig, you and your family are terrific examples of Paying It Forward and we are proud to have crossed paths with you 20 years ago:)


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